With the new year comes new goals, new frames of mind, and new leaps and bounds you want to (and are going to) overcome, it’s inevitable: the New Year brings with it a freshness that wasn’t there before, a blank book of pages just waiting for your ideas to scrawl throughout. I personally don’t make resolutions, for a few reasons, but the main ones being:
1. It’s stressful, and that’s a lot of pressure to put on yourself – when it feels like you have to, it dwindles away the “want to” and excitement that started the idea in the first place
2. A resolution is quite literally, a finality of a matter or decision, to solve something etc etc. Maybe I just live my life in the right manner to which I don’t actually care to resolve much of anything….maybe a bottle of wine so I can resolve another one, but that’s about it.
3. It litters our heads with high hopes and delivers broken dreams. Sorry, but it’s the truth, take it from a girl that grew up in a household where the yearly resolution was to lose weight….then after three months of insane unhealthy dieting, everyone was back to their unhealthy habits and lifestyles….you catching my drift here?
New years resolutions are a total pitfall for me and a catch 22 to how my brain functions. Instead I set New Years goals, and I update them 2 – 4 times throughout the year, why? Well because I can, and because who doesn’t love pushing themselves – reaching a goal – then drafting new ones on top of that?! I don’t want to wait until the end of this year to resolute new things… we should be constantly pushing ourselves into a manner of bettering ourselves. So in lieu of a New Years resolution; here is my list of 2015 goals; I think my brain has decided that if I write them down where people can see them, I’m more likely to hold myself to accomplish them.
Whatever your New Years may bring you, always know that it’s never too late to be better than you want to be or braver than you thought you could be. Dream those dreams lover faces, and tackle your futures – they’re in your hands.
Peace, Love, and Tequila
1. Celebrate people as often as you can, not for what they have or what they can do for you, but because of who they are and how they are to you.
2. Learn more about and adapt a new skill set, it doesn’t have to do anything with photography – it just has to be something that makes you think about what you’re doing, how you’re doing it and what you could do to be better at it.
3. Practice not being so critical of ones self. I struggle with this, I’m my biggest and baddest critic (like literally there are days where I contemplate kicking my own ass because of something I could have done better) I need to be more forgiving and gentle with myself, it’s a hard one to come by but I need to start practicing, it’s self deprecating and jeopardizes all the good in my life for one bad thought.
4. Verbally love myself. What the ef? I know right? It sounds just as dumb when I say it out loud to myself, but I’m thinking that’s half the problem. Have you ever had a surprise girls night, date night, lonely night in where you got dressed up and indulged in rich food and libations only to constantly be worried about how you look or that what you’re wearing isn’t right or good enough or….exactly. That’s the stuff I’m talking about. The stuff that I think to myself when I don’t feel pretty or I’m plagued with the green eyed monster – that’s the stuff that needs to go, and be replaced with kind and loving words that make myself care for myself. It sounds crazy as shit but I say to myself every morning so far, “you are valuable, you have worth beyond your comprehension and no bad outfit, bad hair day or false statement will prove otherwise. Believe in what you have to offer the world, not what you can get from it.” <<I know, some real crazy cat lady shit right there, but you know what? It makes me feel better, and reminds me everyday to not only celebrate other people, but to reaffirm ones own worth.
5. Get uncomfortable. I want to continue to push myself this year in both my business and my craft. This past year I took it easy, I rode the easy train with a one way ticket to doomstown. When you get comfortable you get predictable and when you’re predictable, you’re boring. I know I can create great images for my clients, but I want to push the envelope a little more this year. And by that I mean I laced up my shit kickers and I’ll be kicking in the door of creativity for myself to flourish in. I’m looking at things with a fresh perspective and new light on. In the uncomfortability of the unknown we are forced to be brave and it is where we start to truly find ourselves.
Some not so serious goals:
– See parts of the city, state, country, world that I didn’t know existed + keep my yearn for adventure
– cook more nights a week. I LOVE to cook, I just have gotten away from it when I get busier in business, and that’s not good for me.
– talk less, listen more
– know more about wines than I’ve ever known before and understand that I’ll have to drink more of it to know more about it
– Let my parents and family know more how loved they are and call just because i’m thinking of them. I’ve realized this past year how absolutely short life is whether it’s our physical bodies deteriorating or our minds, we don’t want all our words to get left unsaid because we had better things to do than give them a call.
– read more (and not buzzfeed articles)
– ask people about their lives and stories
– shoot more births
– shoot another elopement (they’re romantic as f*!k)
– learn how to drive our motorcycle
– continue to weed out the meaningless friendships and relationships in my life and keep those that I love and love me, closest
– meet my grandmother
– find balance and peace
– run a race of sorts (this will more than likely never happen, I hate running more than anything)
– shoot a non conventional wedding and something that is completely off the beaten path (I yearn for this)
– set more goals